Navigating the Maze of Modern Trends
A Parent’s Guide to Raising Resilient Children in a Hyper-Connected World
In today’s fast-paced, interconnected world, trends rise and fall in the blink of an eye. From fashion and music to online challenges and viral hashtags, children are constantly bombarded with fads that claim their attention and, often, shape their sense of identity. While some trends are harmless, others carry deeper risks, influencing values, behaviour, and mental health.
The challenge for parents is not simply to shield children from these influences but to empower them with resilience, critical thought, and a strong sense of self. The Quran reminds us:
“Do not follow what you have no knowledge of. Indeed, the hearing, the sight, and the heart — about all of these one will be questioned.”
(Quran, Surah Bani Israel, Chapter 17, Children of Israel, Verse 36)
This is a timeless warning against blindly imitating the crowd — one that resonates deeply in today’s algorithm-driven age.
Why Are Trends So Appealing?
Children’s attraction to trends stems from universal human needs: belonging, novelty, and identity. Centuries ago, Imam Ali (AS) described this tendency when he said:
“Do not be of those who go with the crowd wherever it goes, for one who does so will never find guidance.”
(Ghurar al-Hikam, no. 3700)
The platforms of our time may be new, but the underlying pull is age-old: the desire to fit in, to be admired, and to escape the ordinary.
The Potential Pitfalls of Chasing Trends
Islamic wisdom has long cautioned against excess, comparison, and blind imitation:
Financial Strain: “Indeed, the wasteful are brothers of the devils.” (Quran, Surah Bani Israel, Chapter 17, Children of Israel, Verse 27)
Mental Health Pressure: “And do not wish for what Allah has given some of you over others.” (Quran, Surah an-Nisa, Chapter 4, The Women, Verse 32)
Risky Behaviors: Imam Ja‘far al-Sadiq (AS) warned:
“Beware of extravagance and pride. For extravagance leads to poverty, and pride brings about ruin.”
(Al-Kafi, Vol. 4, p. 53)
Empowering Children to Be Leaders, Not Followers
The aim is not to suppress curiosity but to nurture wisdom and independence. Timeless guidance offers clear strategies:
1. Foster a Strong Identity
Help children see their worth as intrinsic, not dependent on likes, labels, or trends.
“Indeed, the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is the most God-conscious of you.” (Quran, Surah Hujurat, Chapter 49, The Chambers, Verse 13)
2. Encourage Critical Thinking
Imam Musa al-Kadhim (AS) said:
“Try to understand everything carefully, and do not accept everything you hear without reflection.”
(Tuhaf al-‘Uqul, p. 408)
Equip children to question what they see online: Who benefits? What values are hidden here?
3. Teach Media Literacy Through Discernment
Just as one chooses wise company in real life, children must learn to filter their digital company. Imam al-Sadiq (AS) advised:
“Associate with people who increase your intellect, not those who mislead you.”
(Al-Kafi, Vol. 1, p. 39)
4. Keep Communication Open
The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) was known to sit with children, listen attentively, and answer patiently. That model of gentle listening is just as vital today.
5. Model Simplicity and Contentment
Children imitate what they see at home. When parents practice moderation and gratitude, children learn not to chase every passing fad.
Imam Ali (AS) said:
“Contentment is a wealth that does not diminish.”
(Ghurar al-Hikam, no. 2165)
Conclusion
Shielding children from the world of trends is neither possible nor beneficial. What truly prepares them is resilience, grounded values, and the courage to think for themselves. Imam Ali (AS) summarised it beautifully:
“He who has intellect is independent, and he who has good manners is respected. He who has knowledge is powerful, and he who has piety is honourable.”
(Ghurar al-Hikam, no. 8777)
With such qualities, children grow into leaders who are not swept away by passing fashions but guided by wisdom that endures through every age.
Parent’s Action Plan: Raising Resilient Children
1. Daily Conversations
Set aside 10–15 minutes each day to talk with your child about their online or school experiences. Listen more than you speak.
2. Encourage Reflection
When your child mentions a trend, gently ask: “What do you think about it?” instead of immediately approving or disapproving.
3. Model Simplicity
Practice moderation in your own lifestyle. Show your child that joy comes from gratitude, not possessions.
4. Teach Discernment
Help your child question the motives behind advertisements, influencers, and viral challenges. Make critical thinking a family habit.
5. Strengthen Spiritual Anchors
End the day with a short prayer together, reminding your child that true worth comes from God, not from social validation.
A Du‘a for Parents (from Sahifa Sajjadiya, Du‘a 25 – Supplication for Children)
“O Allah, help me in raising them, educating them, and showing kindness to them. Grant me their love and affection, and make them righteous in their obedience to You.”
A simple line like this, recited nightly, turns parenting into worship and brings divine blessing into the home.